Boundaries
Boundaries aren’t just about keeping people out.
They’re about protecting a part of us that’s not ready to connect.
And if we are not in touch with our bodies and how we feel, how can we set better boundaries?
For example for this simple, small talk question:
"How are you?"
Check in. How do you feel?
Ask yourself, Can I share how I actually feel?
Is this person open to receive my feelings?
Can I be vulnerable with this person?
What are the boundaries to set?
Setting Boundaries
How to keep someone at arm’s length? If we just look at someone's body language there are signs. Our bodies tells us the boundary. Not everyone deserves that level of access, and boundaries help you stay honest about who does. Boundaries help define what kind of access someone gets.
How do we set clear boundaries with our body?
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Arm’s length – Stay out of my personal bubble. Distant. Polite. Low intimacy.
How to set this boundary: shift hips or shoulders slightly away. -
Chest height – Heart is guarded. Emotional boundaries are up. Not available for deeper connection right now.
How to set this boundary: subtly cross arms your chest. speak from facts, not feelings. -
Hip height – Nothing sexual. Clear physical or energetic boundaries. No room for misinterpretation.
How to set this boundary: maintain personal space, step back if someone gets too close. use clear and direct language. -
Ankle level – Still firmly rooted but clearly exposed. Heart is open. Vulnerable but not fragile. Choosing to stay present with intention.
How to set this boundary: soften your posture, make warm eye contact, stay rooted in your breath. share how you feel in real time, but stay aware of how the other person responds. if you sense safety, lean in. if not, pull back.
